guest post: tranae of becoming fabulous.

When Tranae emailed her guest post to me, I was literally fist pumping as I was reading it. This topic could not be more appropriate for my daily life and I'm sure yours, as well. This is a GREAT reminder! Read on!

Hello, readers of Mama Marchand’s Nest. I’m Tranae and I blog over at Becoming Fabulous. I’m here today to share one of my quick tips to becoming fabulous.

Do you ever find yourself in situations you don’t want to be in? For instance, having to cancel your plans because you let a friend borrow your car to make a quick run to the store and three hours later you are still waiting for your car. Or the classmate who never takes notes but always asks to borrow yours. And lets not forget that co-worker who always tries to push their work off on you. When you think about most of the stressful situations we end up in, many of them could have been avoided by saying one little word: No.

An essential part of becoming fabulous is being actively involved in the decisions that affect your life. For a long time, it was hard for me to say no to others. I didn’t want to let them down or I felt guilty about it. It took me years to learn to say no but I finally mastered it and so can you by trying these simple tips.

1.     Understand that you have the right to say no.

2.     Practice makes perfect

Role-play saying no or say the word out loud to yourself.  Think of different experiences and visualize yourself saying no.

3.     Write it down.

If you don’t feel comfortable saying no then send it in an email or text, or say it in a letter or on a cute little note card.

4.     Keep it simple.

Not meaning to sound cliché but no means no. You do not have to provide an explanation or excuse.

5.     Avoid saying “Maybe” and “I don’t know.”

Deep in your heart you know what you answer is. If you need time to make your decision, simply say, “let me think about and I’ll get back to you.”

In the end, it is your decision so use it wisely. Always remember to stand your ground and let your No’s mean no. Be prepared for people to become upset with you. But honestly, are you willing to trade in your happiness for theirs. 

Thanks for giving us something to think about, Tranae. Go check out her blog, Becoming Fabulous!