I made a deal with myself ... no new clothes until I lose a decent amount of weight. This makes my teeny closet, my budget, and the hubs very happy. But, it makes me so very sad because I AM SICK OF MY WARDROBE. I pulled out my meager spring/summer collection and while most of it fits (not really a victory since I was still recovering from CHILDBIRTH this time last year), it's outdated and boring. While I'm not wearing mom jeans or drowning myself in oversized sweatshirts, I think my current attire might cause Stacy and Clinton to consider me for their show. PLEASE?
Maybe I'm being melodramatic.
I just feel like the frump queen.
I've gotta change my perspective and FAST because this poundage isn't falling off like it's supposed to. Ya know, eat well one day, be five pounds lighter the next? Yeah, that doesn't happen like it does when I daydream.
So, I have to figure out a way to make this fun ... like a challenge or game of sorts. To get me through until I can rationalize a trip to the thrift store (or the clearance racks) where I can get some fun and funky new-to-me pieces to hold me over until the next size. I can accessorize the heck out of what I'm wearing to make it look less blah. I can put on eyeliner more often. I can do new things to my hair (like what?). I'm grasping here.
Do you know how I feel? What do you do to shake things up with your wardrobe? Help.
P.S. While this is much more light-hearted than my normal Pour Your Heart Out posts, it still is really tough for me. I'm feeling ick and "meh" right now. Linking up with Shell ...
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I know exactly how you feel!! I've been in some need of some retail therapy to re-invigorate my style, but haven't done it since we will be moving and I don't need more stuff to box up!
Good luck with your style re-vamp!
(coming by from PYHO)
I know EXACTLY what you mean! I have said many times to my husband that I should be the poster mom for dumpymoms.com
I think your plan to accessorize and make some little changes will help bridge the weight loss gap. For me, I know that putting on make-up (and buying something new & cheap like Target lipgloss), wearing earrings, and doing my hair can make me feel a ton better.
Maybe think about purchasing a new, stylish pair of sandals and getting an inexpensive pedicure? That's not focused on a clothing size but might make you feel pulled together and special!
I have resorted to sweatpants/yoga pants everyday because they fit and it doesn't matter if they get beat up a little.
You should so reward yourself with a mini-shopping trip when you hit smaller goals. That would help encourage you and give you something to look forward to.
Stopping by from Things I can't say :)
I hate the frump! I am frump!
I am back into the t-shirts and jeans from college, they are going to be covered in snot and dirt by the end of the day anyway so why dress up?
Luckily my sweet husband loves t-shirts and jeans and we have just kind of decided we are going to be that laid back family and not care.
Now if I just had the motivation to get in shape and do something other than the mom pony with my hair we would be...well good?
This is such a frustrating thing about motherhood. You no longer get to spend time on yourself and whether you need to lose the pounds and can't seem to or no longer seem to ever paint your nails or the bags under your eyes are so large you could drown in them it all makes you feel just "ugh". I am there with you!
I know what you mean as well. I wanted to not buy any new clothes that fit my baby relieved body as well but I couldn't take it anymore. I needed to feel good about myself so I did it. J know the weight will come off eventually with a little work but I needed to give my self esteem a boost to get me going. Its doing the trick! Good luck to you. Whether it is 2 months from now or 2 years You can do it! If nothing else do it for that amazing baby!
I definitely understand! My best suggestion for adding life to your wardrobe is to accessorize. It's amazing how a piece of jewelry or multiple pieces can add some much needed life to shirt or dress. And to mix and match pieces that you usually wouldn't. :]
I, too, can relate. My eldest will be 18 this year, and I do have periods of time when I feel pretty, but the times I feel frumpy seemingly outnumber them.
Good luck on your "makeover". Those are great things from time to time, and I think Angela had some wonderful ideas on helping to feel pretty. :-)
Just dropping by from PYHO, but will be following along in the future.
Have a great day!
I'd rather have another child than workout, but I've heard using the Wii Fit is a fun way to shed the pounds...
Oh, do I ever feel the frump! I did just buy myself 3 new outfits. It had been a long time since I bought myself anything.
Before that, I'd go to the thrift store occasionally.
I'm right there with you! Last summer I was in maternity shirts. Now I have 3 short sleeved shrits that actually fit. I keep looking but everytime I find something I like it's to expensive. Why o why do plus size clothes have to be so ugly!
Great post! It wasn't until one of the kids at the children's home I live/work at said, "Why are you all dressed up?" to how I looked one day (which was how I used to dress everyday before working there) did I realize that I had let frumpy mom syndrome take over.
I'm trying to overcome it, but I'm so glad you posted this as I need to hear the tips too!
One thing I recently found and have been using is an under eye roller from Garnier Fructis in the mornings. It might just be in my head but it does make me feel a littleore "bright eyed" and ready for the day.
I am so not the poster child for chic mom fashion. That being said I do think that accesories can help if you don't want to invest in any clothes at this point in your weight loss journey.
You will get there, it is just a process.
I have to say, you usually look fashion-conscious and well accessorized in the pictures you post, so I was surprised to hear you refer to your "meager wardrobe" and issues with the frump. But it's probably a natural phase of life as we all grow up, rearrange our priorities, and realize that there are more important things to spend money on than clothes. There's also that issue of time. I realized, somewhat to my horror, the other day that it's been over a year since I've bought a single article of clothing that didn't come from Gilt.com (by far my biggest offender), Ruelala, ideeli, Zulily, or another flash-sale site like that. The only exception is Soho, the boutique less than a block from my house, where the kind owner will let me take things home to try on so I don't have to entertain Maya in the fitting room. Oh, how I've missed you, Anthropologie. And Ann Taylor has probably filed a missing persons report on me.
I've also taken to getting things tailored and even taking my shoes to the shoe repair shop. It feels so responsible and anti-consumerist. I'm practically a relic from the 1950's. :-)
make sure you have a good bra...seriously...most women don't get properly fitted and having the proper size can make your clothes look better...
and as far as style? I'm about the most un-hip, wearing whatever is on sale at Old Navy kinda gal, but I always have a flower in my hair and my toesies painted...
I think the thrift store is a great idea, and maybe even a home hair color?
I definitely identify because I feel the same way, I need a new wardrobe and a makeover!
Boy, do I get where you're coming from... I haven't bought any new clothes for ages. I did manage to zip up a pair of jeans the other day that I haven't worn in a couple years. That was exciting.
If I can lose the weight I've set for myself by my birthday, I think I'll treat myself to a new wardrobe.
Oh hun, I feel you. I looked at my wardrobe the other day and was like.. do I only own black shirts?!! When did I get SO drab and frumptastic?! ;-) I think you're gorgeous but fingers crossed for whatever makes you feel better and lifts you out of the funk!
It's fun every once in a while to trade accessories and clothes with friends. Obviously I never trade anything sentimental or that I'd be upset if I never got back, but it gives me variety.
I feel you! My youngest is almost 4 and I'm in the same size for several years. I HAD to buy new clothes last year as I was going to college and doing in internship last summer. I feel like a fatty that looks like a shlump :(
Been right there with you. I eventually lost it, but now its creeping back on and it just doesn't come off like it used to. Although, judging from your picture, you've still got it and are passing it along to you daughter! :)
My little guy is only four months old and I'm in that inbetween stage in clothes now. So I thrift and rely on others cleaning their closets out and taking pity on me!
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